The Nigerian Man's " SPEC"

What is the Nigerian man's spec? This question or line of thought has become an exam for me, such that I am writing it down. How am I supposed to know, when one minute a brother be fronting with a certain kind of girl, and the next second, married to  some one completely different. So do you guys like a girl who is outspoken, smart, and can hold her own? Or do you want a "yes sir" woman, who is timid and or shy, will not speak except she is spoken to, and will most likely never question any suggestions you come up with. Honestly, I am at a loss of words as to what the Nigerian man wants, especially when he dates one type, marries the other and goes back to dating the girl or the type of girl he dated while single. So he marries the other, makes babies with her, and builds a 'family' with her. Then he dates the other, discusses EVERYTHING with her, travels round the world on business and pleasure trips with her, and consults on her opinion for most of the decisions he has to make, even family concerning, and considers her opinions and feelings with every action he takes. Yet somehow, we are supposed to believe the wife is the 'SPEC', really?

I mean guys, really c'mon... Educate me here! Is a man's partner the one he lives with and has kids with, or is his partner the one he has an actual relationship with? Seriously eeehn, if this was not a JAMB/GCE concern, I would not be burdened with writing it naah. So now, ladies who want to be 'wifed' have assumed the 'introverted' cloak, making sure that they give Paris Hilton a run for the dumb blonde title! While some ladies have accepted their fate as serial mistresses and gone on to succeed in what ever ventures they lay their hands on. The rest of us who want to be 'wifed' and still maintain our smartness, confidence and person, are praying, hoping and waiting for the Nigerian man who wants a wife with ALL THAT!!

Eeern, na the wait we still dey naah.........